Good
sex 
Good sex magically happens when people who fancy each other end up in bed together. At least, that's how it works in the movies. In real life, it tends to be a bit more complicated. Sometimes you have to work at it. You need to find a place comfortable for you (like up against a tree, in the shower or on the bed) and communicate with your partner(s) about what you like and what they like. You can use your mouth: to ask questions, give directions or whimper and groan. Or, you can use your hands: to push them away, pull them closer, or help them find the right spot.
The best sex is when you are completely happy at the time and afterwards. It's easy to get caught up in the moment. If you have a fantastic shag and then start to worry, it won't seem so good. This web site gives you information about how HIV and other sexually transmitted infections can be passed on during sex. Knowing about risks can help you decide what you are happy doing. Working out what you want is the first step to having good sex.
Infection
Sometimes, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) have visible symptoms like warts or sores. But you or the person you're having sex with could have an infection without knowing it. Many STIs are curable. The others can be treated, but not cured. All hospital GU clinics offer free, confidential sexual health check-ups.
Condoms
Most condom failure can be prevented. To increase the effectiveness of condoms you could:
- use plenty of oil-free lubricant (spit may work, but isn't ideal)
- use a condom that fits your cock - not too short, too loose or too tight
- change the condom during long fucking sessions
- read the instructions and practice using condoms on your own (a posh wank)
There is still no cure for HIV, but there is protection. Condoms can be obtained free by post from www.healthygayscotland.com
Long
and hard 
Long hard fucking can lead to small tears in the lining of the arse. These tears can make HIV transmission more likely because spunk can get in contact with blood. Long hard fucking can also be rough on condoms. Using plenty of oil-free lubricant reduces wear and tear on both condoms and arses. Taking a break and changing the condom can also help keep it from bursting.
Unless you are sure that both you and the person with whom you are fucking are HIV negative, using a condom properly is the only way to be sure not to transmit HIV.
More
partners 
Over the last decade in Scotland, there has than no significant change in the number of new HIV infections. This trend shows no signs of changing.
Only half of the Scottish gay men with HIV know that they are HIV-positive.
As people with HIV are living longer and healthier lives, the percentage of Scottish gay man who are living with HIV is increasing every year.
Whether you are positive or negative, the more partners you who you have unprotected sex, the higher the chances of HIV being transmitted.
Cum
inside 
Fucking is one of the easiest ways to transmit HIV. If you are HIV-positive (or don't know if you are) and fuck, its better not to cum inside. There is a much greater risk of HIV being transmitted if spunk goes in the arse. Not coming inside can reduce the chances of HIV being passed on, but only reduces the chances. It's not only cum that contains HIV, but pre-cum too. So not cuming inside doesn't mean there is no risk of HIV. The best way not to come inside is to use a condom.
Mouth
Oral sex has a low-risk of transmitting HIV, but it is not risk-free. Here are some facts about risk of HIV transmission:
- Getting sucked seems to be less risky than sucking others.
- Bleeding gums, ulcers, cuts or sores in the mouth increase risk to the one sucking.
- Taking care of your mouth and not brushing or flossing before sucking reduces risk.
- Getting cum in your mouth or cumming in someone else's mouth increases risk.
- The presence of other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) increases risk.
- STIs like Syphilis, Hepatitis B, Herpes and Gonorrhoea can also be transmitted by oral sex.
You may decide that you're happy with what you are doing. Or, you may decide to limit the number of partners with whom you have oral sex or start using condoms. It is up to you to decide what level of risk you are happy with and what you want to do about it.
Helplines
Borders Gay
Switchboard
t: 01896 756611, Thur 7.30-10pm
Dumfries
& Galloway L&G Phoneline
t:
01387 261818, Thur 7.30-9.30pm
Grampian
LGB Switchboard
t: 01224 212600, Wed, Fri 7.30-9.30pm
w: www.glgbs.org.uk
London Bisexual
Phoneline
t: 0845 450 1263
Tues, Wed 7.30-9.30pm. Sat 10.30am-12.30pm
London L&G
Switchboard
t:
020 7837 7324, 24 hours
w: www.llgs.org.uk/
Lothian Gay
& Lesbian Switchboard
t:
0131 556 4049, Nightly 7.30-10pm
w: www.lgls.org/
National
Aids Helpline
t: 0800 567 123, 24 Hours
Strathclyde L&G Switchboard
t: 0141 332 8372, Nightly 7-10pm
w: www.sgls.co.uk
LGBT Health Organisations
Gay Men's
Health
10a Union Street, Edinburgh EH1 3LU
t: 0131 558 9444
e: mail@gmh.org.uk
w: www.gmh.org.uk
Phace Scotland
49 Bath Street, Glasgow G2 2DL
t: 0141 332 3838
e: contact@phacescotland.org
w: www.phacescotland.org
Reach Out
Highland
34 WaterlooPlace, Inverness IV1 1NB
t: 01463 711585
e: support@reachout.demon.co.uk
w: www.reachout.demon.co.uk
The Steve
Retson Project
Sandyford Centre, 6 Sandyford Place, Sauchiehall Street, Glasgow
t: 0141 211 8601
w: www.steveretsonproject.org.uk
Other LGBT Groups
Al-Fatiha,
an international Muslim organisation
Box 424, 37 Shore Street, London WC1
e: alfatiha_london@hotmail.com
w: www.al-fatiha.net
Ayrshire
Social & Sexuality Support Group, Over 18's only
t:
0141 332 3838 or (01294 323 473 in Ayrshire)
e: contact@phacescotland.org
Diversitay
LGBT Group (Tayside)
PO Box 53, Dundee DD1 3YG
t: 01382 202620, Mon 7-9pm, else answerphone
e: diversitay@hotmail.com
w: www.dundeelgb.freeserve.co.uk/
Fife Friend
PO Box 19, Kirkcaldy KY1 3JF
t: 01592 266688, Tue 7.30-9pm, Fri 7.30-10pm
e: info@fifefriend.co.uk
w: www.fifefriend.co.uk/
Holy Trinity
Metroplitan Community Church
PO Box 12433, Edinburgh EH1 3FU
t: 0131 347 8699
e: mail@mccedinburgh.com
w: www.mccedinburgh.com
Lads &
Lassies Club, Scottish Deaf Gay and Lesbian Club
PO
Box 7005, Glasgow G71 5UZ
e: llsdgalc@hotmail.com
Lanarkshire
Gay Group
134 Douglas Street, 2nd Floor Glasgow G2 4HF
t: 0141 332 3838
e: contact@phacescotland.org
LGBT Youth Groups
LGBT Youth
Scotland (please change all references to Stonewall Youth to
new name)
John Cotton Centre, 10 Sunnyside, Edinburgh EH7 5RA
t: 0131 622 2266
e: info@lgbtyouth.org.uk
w: www.lgbtyouth.org.uk
Youth groups in:
Berwick
Edinburgh (drop in: Tues 6.30-8.30pm)
Galashiels
Hawick
Kircaldy
Peebles
Ring confidential
LGBT youth line for details:
t: 0845 113 0005, Tues 7.30-9pm
Colours LGBT
Youth
Youth Services, Glasgow City Council, 196 Bath Street, Glasgow
G2 4HH
e: colourslgbt@yahoo.co.uk
w: www14.brinkster.com/colourslgbt
Highland
LGB Youth Group
34 WaterlooPlace, Inverness IV1 1NB
t: 01463 711585, Mon-Fri 9.30am-4.30pm
e: project@reachout.demon.co.uk
w: www.reachout.demon.co.uk
This Way
Out (Dundee LGB Youth Group)
PO Box 53, Dundee DD1 3YG
t: 01382 202620, Mon 7pm-10pm
e: diversitay@hotmail.com
w: www.dundeelgb.freeserve.co.uk
YLGC (Young
Lesbian and Gay Christians)
t: 020 7739 8134, Wed & Sat, 7pm-9.30pm
e: carrm@blueyonder.co.uk
w: www.lgcm.org.uk