Coming Out...How to do it!

There is no right place or right time or right way to come out. Sometimes people use coming out as a way to start an argument or to hurt someone. This may damage relationshipes you really want to keep. Having a few drinks first won't make it any easier, either. Try to plan ahead and think carefully about what you're doing. When coming out to someone, remember how long it has taken you to accept your sexuality. Others may need time to accept this also - so try to keep calm.

Here are some suggestions for responses to statements some people might make:

It's just a phase:
Things may change in the future, but this is how I feel now. And that is what is important.

It's not important:
It is to me. I've had to build up a lot of courage to tell you.

Was it something I did?:
No. It's just the way I feel.

God says it is wrong:
God made me the way I am.

Now it's said, don't mention it again:
If I don't, I will have to lie about where I've been and who I see. I'm not willing to do that.

Why do you have to tell everyone about what you do in bed?
I'm not. I'm talking about my sexuality, which is different from sex. I'm telling you about me.